Being with Family
[The following discussion is completely academic and philosophical with no connection to anything real that has ever happened, anywhere.] Given that the members of a family have the longest history together, know each other the best and have had the most time to build...
Work and not-work
My husband, Bob, and I had lunch with a friend recently. I talked about Rotary International and what I do there. I mentioned that it's a rather low-status job, but I like the lighter workload and the people."And that's all right with you?" my husband's friend from...
You put THIS in the dryer?
So, in 2007 the spinster and the bachelor moved in together. I was 40, he was 44. I had spent 12 years living alone, he had spent even longer. Because I knew I'd need plenty of space (and patience) as I adapted to life in a couple, we deliberately melded our lives in...
2009 Goals Group
Cranky Pumpkin (I made this for work this past week)That's my gratuitious cake photo for the month. It was devil's food inside.Last March I blogged about a goals group I started so I could have help with my 2009 resolutions. It started out great, with nine women...
Rogers Park and how I feel about it
This is for Rudy, who asked a couple of questions about the place where I live.Rogers Park, which is on the far northside and borders the next town, is one of the most racially integrated neighborhoods in Chicago and I moved here in 1995. I love being a 50-minute...
Bob Went on Vacation
So my husband went on vacation in August, all by himself. I enjoyed very much having the apartment to myself, eating whenever I wanted and falling asleep without the white noise machine blaring to drown out his snoring. It reminded me of my old spinster days when I...
Welcome, Winter!
We didn't get much of a summer in Chicago this year. Temperatures stayed surprisingly cool through most of it and, although we got a few days that were above 85 degrees, I think most Chicagoans agree that this was a non-summer. That was particularly crappy for people...
From the inside
Back when I was single (a little over a year ago legally and three years ago in practice), I used to wonder what it would be like to be married. It seemed unfair that the general answer seemed to be "Every marriage is different." What the heck did that mean? Why...
My 43rd Birthday
Yesterday, July 24th, I turned 43. I am enjoying a middle-aged body, middle-aged loneliness and the desperate full-sprint to get some retirement savings in place when I only had a few thousand in an old 401k until I started socking it away a year ago when I got my...
My Husband is Not My Best Friend
[Yes, I've given my blog a new look, but it's still me.] When I was young I had a best friend. She was my favorite person in the world. We had lots of fun. Then a new girl entered the picture and my best friend eventually decided to be her best friend and to stop...
On June 20 I posted that Facebook fails to draw me because I'd rather talk to friends in person than online. That was a comparison between blogging/emailing and having live friends in the room with me. But it's damn hard to get live people in the same room with me....
So How Is Married Life Treating Me?
In the spring of 2004, almost exactly five years ago, I had a do-nothing job that gave me hours in front of an online connection every day. I was just emerging from a period of social isolation. I had few friends, longed for a romantic relationship and had a lot of...