An Un-Mother’s Day Party
I am a 44-year-old Mexican American woman who has lots of friends, but most of them have never been married. Also, most of my friends are not mothers. I somehow manage to seek out peers who have not followed the socially prescribed life path. Sunday, May 8th is...
Happy Easter!
I'm re-posting this photo from last year's Easter post because it's a party cake in the shape of an instrument of horrible torture and death. And could there possibly be more frosting on this thing? What a festive-grim holiday. Happy Easter! Fight the grimness!
“You Only Live Once”
Bob the Husband: "Honey, you only live once." Me: "If I'm lucky."
Easter Will Be Better Than Bad!
I don't like Easter. It seems to me like the sad little cousin of Christmas, destined to live in the shadow of the biggest American holiday. Easter has no compelling and uplifting narrative, like the story of Jesus' birth. Instead it has the story of Jesus' torture...
Everything Doesn’t Happen for a Reason
Do people really believe that nothing in the world happens without some master plan behind it? Are all these people who say "Everything happens for a reason" talking about a god or some mystical dance of the allness of life or fate? And why do they think I want to...
Middle-Age Starts Around 36
At the age of 44, I know I am middle-aged. I don't have a problem with this. It's only logical: middle-aged means you're roughly halfway through your life. In fact the next time someone tries to argue that being in our 40s -- or even late 30s -- is not middle-aged, I...
Was I Bilingual Even Before I Was Bilingual?
Bilingual brain
Dog-Lover/Dog-Tolerant
Last week Bob did some dog-sitting. He loves dogs. I don't love them, but I'm dog-tolerant and knew this would make Bob happy. Coco wasn't very interested in yoga, especially cat pose. She just liked sitting on my mat. Sadly, Coco has gone home now.
Third Anniversary
On March 25, 2011 Bob and I celebrated two years of wedded bliss and one year of crap. 2010 was awful, mainly because my depression really kind of sank our household for a while, but also because of Bob's surgery, my challenging first trip out of the U.S. and other...
I Don’t Want Children
It occurs to me that anyone who has just started reading my blog might wonder why I have chosen to stay child-free. The reasons appear in a post I wrote over five years ago, at the age of 39. Take a look. This post also contains the phrase "at the...
Heart Attack Grill: “Taste Worth Dying For!”
Have you heard of Heart Attack Grill in Arizona? The founder and owner, Jon Basso, used to work for Jenny Craig, encouraging people to eat well and slim down. According to the interview he did with Nightline a couple of weeks ago (you can watch it here), he is...
Child-Free by Choice
I've noticed a change in how people respond to my statement, "I don't have kids." When I was in my 20's and 30's, people took this comment in stride, maybe because I seemed young enough to still have children or maybe because they knew I wasn't married, so it seemed...