Chicana on the Edge

Mentioning the unmentionable since 2004

Ask For What You Want, Part Two: People Pleasing

Are you good at asking for what you want? Some insight into those who struggle with it.

How Chicago Failed Its Most Vulnerable: The Heat Wave of July 1995

31 years ago, a three-day disaster revealed an ongoing one.

Judy Rodríguez on San Diego

If you or anyone you know is thinking of moving to San Diego, California here's my advice: don't do it. Why? My sister, Judy, has lived there for 15 years and here's what she has to say:Lots of San Diegans are looking for less costly places to live. It's gotten more...

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Born to be unremarkable

So I’m realizing that life is really, really boring unless I work at making it interesting. I feel bored with my music, my love life, my weight VIGILANCE, my job, my hair and my blog. Bored, bored, bored, bored.There is nothing inherently exciting or cool about...

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First Date Etiquette, Women

Single-Women-Who-Date-Men, I think we really only have to remember two things, preferably BEFORE the first date begins: 1. Ask him, "Have you ever been married?" 2. If the answer is yes, ask him, "Are you married right now?" Do not date a married man. Don't do it even...

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How I meet men

I'm answering this question asked by Modigli: Where do you meet these men you have been going on dates with? In my 23 years of dating, I have met men using every strategy I've ever heard of, including blind dating, online dating (various websites), speed dating,...

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First Date Etiquette, Men

Single-Men-Who-Date-Women, if you get nothing else right on a first date, please PLEASE remember these two things: 1. Ask her questions. For every question she asks you, ask her one back. For every minute you talk, she should talk, too. 2. Do not touch your date. Let...

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Getting Married, Update 2

So, it has now been six weeks that I've been dating according to Steve's plan for how to get yourself married. The main change I've made from how I dated previously is that I now date for quite a while before making any decisions about getting exclusive. This has led...

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Scruples

It’s the 1970’s in my tv. Last week the Oxygen network broadcast a 1980 made-for-tv movie called Scruples. Does anyone remember this? It was a novel by Judith Krantz that was made a best-seller by women of my mother’s generation. The tv movie starred a...

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Not low on irony

So I had my annual physical exam (a few years ago with good health insurance I made a commitment to an annual physical. Why not? I'm getting "up there"). I spoke to Dr. James Clancy, about my menstrual cramps from hell. He confirmed that cramps can get stronger as you...

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Constantly date, part two

Women, if you actually make it to an exclusive relationship, guarantee its failure by remembering:1. Love at first sight is true love and vice versa.2. Falling in love takes only a few days. Hell, if it’s meant to last, maybe a few hours.3. Go ahead and have sex early...

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The Bluenited States

For all of us who still dream about taking over the "red states," www.bluenitedstates.com offers a concrete plan to do so. It's "One Woman's proposal to take over the world... or at least her part of it." I particularly like the explanation of the "National Graft" and...

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