Previous post on fatness.
Disclaimer: since I’ve become properly obese, I re-read these old posts and see my body dysmorphia and obsession with food and weight. It’s sad to me now.
People think this is a nice thing to say and I’m sure it is for most people. I’m sure it happens all the time that a woman feels fat from a recent weight gain, but feels reassured by others that they can’t tell.
Not me.
In my twisted mind, the statement, “You don’t look like you’ve gained weight,” sounds like “You’ve always strained your clothes like this and had that double chin.”
Recently I responded to this reassuring statement by saying, “Please don’t say that. It makes me feel bad. These days I don’t respond well to anything but I’m sorry to hear that. ” The person smiled and said, “Okay, I’m sorry to hear that. But I really can’t tell you’ve gained weight!”
She thought she was being nice and I can’t blame her. To normal people, that probably is nice, but I felt like she was insulting me after I’d asked her not to.
Yeah, I’m recovering from depression again. One way I cope is to ask people specifically for what I need, but they don’t always do it.
Next post on fatness.
Yep, Jenny is Jenny Craig. I've had great success there and my ever thoughtful ex fiance bought me a life membership for my b'day many moons ago so it's always there!!
We WILL Regina, we WILL!
Thanks for your support, means so much to me xxx
Statements like the ones you quote from people normally don't mean anything they are just a way of making polite conversation in my opinion.
Sorry to hear about the depression, you take care.
I'm sorry to hear that!
🙂