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Middle Age Priorities — Now I Get It
When I was in my teens my mother was several years younger than I am now (I'm 54). As a high school student, I was at the beginning of my career as a woman who cares about her appearance while my mother was getting towards the end of hers. We lived in California so it...
Bring the Sunshine, I Guess
Since "Juldemort" (July 2020 was so horrific for me that's how I refer to it) I've noticed startling changes in myself. One is that I no longer prefer gray skies to bright ones. As this 2015 post expresses, I used to dislike and avoid sunny days, staying inside so the...
NPRs This American Life: “Tell Me I’m Fat”
Previous post on weight & health: Slow as weight loss National Public Radio's This American Life program recently broadcast a show called "Tell Me I'm Fat." On their website, it's described like this: The way people talk about being fat is shifting. With...
As Slow as Weight Loss
Previous post on weight & health: Wheat is the culprit I've spent most of my life as a thin person. I was a skinny kid and then a gym rat who constantly struggled to stay down at a size 10 or under. My raging sweet tooth that never stopped somehow never tipped the...
I Hate Myself No More
A month ago, I began reading Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One. It explains how our thoughts and feelings affect our physical and material state. He basically says that with focus and meditation you can...
Fatter But Wiser
Being unmarried does NOT make you inferior. Yeah, I had to learn this. Previous post on weight & health: PLoosening the grip of food over me In April 2007 I left my spinster pad and moved in with my boyfriend, who would later become my husband. I...
Doctor’s Response to My Weight Gain
Previous post on weight & health: Fatness equals happiness? Yesterday I saw my doctor for a regular exam. I hadn't seen her since last fall or maybe it was summer. I was looking forward to the weigh-in because I've gained so much weight and I wanted to see...
Fatness Equals Happiness?
Me, age 2 Previous post on weight and health: Thin or happy? It might really be a choice Yesterday I was feeling bad because I outgrew another pair of pants and was down to one skirt that was appropriate for the workplace that I could wear comfortably (now I've...
Thin or Happy? It Might Really Be a Choice
Previous post on weight and health: Doctors, please don't tell fat people to lose weight A book called Health At Every Size: The Surprising Truth about Your Weight by Linda Bacon is causing big shifts for me. It promotes accepting all bodies regardless of size...
On Fat Tuesday I Will Fear No Food
I'm excited about Fat Tuesday (Mardi Gras on 12 Feb) this year because now that I've embraced the Health At Every Size approach to health, I no longer torment myself with food as I used to. If I want the food, I eat the food; if I don't want the...
I Want to Bend Easily Again
(Can you find the dog in this photo?) Previous post on this topic: Gaining 25 pounds in 3 months I want to be part of the fat acceptance movement, but I'm having doubts. The 25 pounds I put on since October have added to and subtracted from my happiness. I love...
Die, Inner Critic, Die!
Sitting in my weekly EFT tapping circle, I tapped as I listened to topics like family dynamics, self-nurture and the feeling of not being good enough. As I tapped, my feelings of not being good enough and being too fat, grew. "I really hate myself," I thought, as I...
Gaining 25 pounds in 3 months
Previous post on this topic: How to be overweight When one suddenly becomes chubby after being not-chubby all one's life, one might do the following: 1. One might hate how tight everything fits. 2. One might hate buying new clothes, which is not fun if the reason is...
Fat and Middle-aged: the Advantages
Visiting with a friend's dogs on Christmas Eve This post is specifically for women "of a certain age," although young women might also find it interesting. For me the best part of being middle-aged and overweight is not having to waste time and energy playing the "is...