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Divorce Is Not Failure
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My life isn’t worse than it used to be; the problem is that I don’t have as much hope.
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In autumn 2012 I had had such a bizarre and frustrating experience of dog ownership that I used National Novel Writing Month to draft a memoir of what I'd been through the previous year with a pitbull mix mutt named Ozzie. Since then my manuscript has evolved to...
10-Year Anniversary of a 5-Year Marriage
Yesterday was the 10-year anniversary of the day we celebrated our wedding. My husband and I got married on one day and had the reception six months later. For some reason the 10-year anniversary of the wedding ceremony didn't hit me as hard last March, but today I...
Ever Lose a Pair of Diamond Earrings?
I lost a pair of custom-made diamond earrings about a year ago. They were a gift from my ex-husband (from back when we were married) and were created to my specifications. Of course, I went through all my drawers, pockets, bags, suitcases and tote bags and looked...
Being Divorced Is Great
During my protracted spinsterhood (didn't marry til I was 41), I did a lot of online dating. Being single-never-married felt like a benefit, or at least a neutral quality, when I was in my late 20s and early 30s, but that changed. By the end of my 30s, being...
12-Step Programs Are Not Great
The April 2015 issue of The Atlantic has an article called The Irrationality of Alcoholics Anonymous. In the article Gabrielle Glaser, author of Her Best Kept Secret: Why Women Drink - And How They Can Regain Control, discusses the ways that Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)...
Single and Dating Again!
When I started this blog in 2004, I was single and dating. In 2008 I got married and felt happy for a while. Then I felt not so happy, and then my husband ended our marriage. Earlier this year we got divorced. So guess what it's time for now? More dating! Thus do I...
Dip
Previous post on weight & health: Pants Two weeks into drastically reducing the sugary and starchy foods I eat, my pants fit better and my energy is good, but this past weekend my resolve took a dip and a big one. I have face blindness and no head at all for...
Judgment After Divorce
Even though I'm divorced, I'm Catholic (actually I'm an atheist, but just follow me here), so I know that on the Day of Judgment when we all rise from the dead, there I'll be, standing next to my only groom. In the eyes of God our marital bond will be unbroken, and at...
One Day Til Divorce
Because of my impending divorce, my blog will now descend into personal reflection, whining and boring details. I hope this will not last more than a few days. Please stand by for better content. I'm continuing to let the emotions roll through me as they come up. I'm...
Two Days Til My Divorce
I've got about 45 hours left to be a married woman. Then I'll be divorced and single. It'll be a new adventure that I'm looking forward to, although the end of the marriage is also sad. Right on cue I'm also feeling anger at my post-husband today, but that's probably...
Divorce Is Not Failure
I found out last Thursday when my court date will be for my divorce. It's shudderingly soon: Friday, February 7th. On that day I will answer a few questions before a judge, and about five minutes later, a guy named Bob and I will no longer be married. I've cried a lot...
A Lovely Winter Divorce
I did this right: during my marriage we had no children, incurred no debt, bought no property, inherited no big windfalls and started no businesses. With nothing to argue about or contest, my husband and I should be cleanly divorced in about four weeks and $1,300. I...