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Pandemic Brought Me More Racist Micro Aggressions
The pandemic even brought more racism into my life.
How Aging Is Like a Science Fiction Movie
Is an old person in your life driving you absolutely crazy?
Being Unvaccinated in Chicago Is a Particular Kind of Pain
The farthest-left-leaning neighborhood of Democratic Chicago used to be the perfect place for me. Not right now.
Holiday Loneliness
In the post I finished an hour ago, I said that being able to add some foods back to my diet on Dec. 27th (while I'm on the McCombs Candida Plan) is another reason to wish December away as quickly as possible. December has always been my favorite month of all. Why do...
This Virus Fucking Sucks
For single people who live alone with have no family nearby, and who struggle with a mood disorder, being physically isolated for long can be deadly (I'm referring to suicide). When people talk about weighing the risks of interacting with others against the risk of...
Staying Home Gets Harder For Those Who Live Alone
On Thursday the city of Chicago issued an advisory that included not having guests in our homes and it really upset me as someone who lives alone. The general advice is to celebrate holidays with only those in your household. I don't have anyone else in my household,...
Make New Friends Even During the Shutdown
Feeling lonely and isolated? Who isn't! It's easy to feel all alone these days, especially those of us who live alone. Maybe you wish you could make some new friends, but have no idea how to do that when we're all isolating. Well, here are some ideas and you can...
Getting Killed by a White Supremacist
After Gilroy and El Paso and Dayton, it has sunk in at a new level for me that I could die any day. That has always been true, of course, but the frequency of the last three terrorist acts make it immediate for me. White men slaughtering people in public places has...
Please Put Your Damn Cell Phone Away
Maybe I’m just old. So please respect old people by not looking at your phone!
How to End a Friendship
Also: How to make friends, part 1 How to make friends, part 2 How to make friends, part 3 How to maintain a friendship Sometimes -- even if you've been good friends in the past -- it's time to end a friendship. On TV friendships often end because one person stole...
How to Maintain a Friendship
Also: How to make friends, part 1 How to make friends, part 2 How to make friends, part 3 How to end a friendship Have you ever had a friend you felt great about, but then they stopped responding to your texts or other messages? Don't be that person. Ever. Keep...
How to Make Friends, Part 3
Also: How to make friends, part 1 How to make friends, part 2 How to maintain a friendship How to end a friendship You've overcome the initial fear of rejection and have the contact info of someone you'd like to make friends with. Here's what I've learned to do...
How to Make Friends, Part 2
Also: How to make friends, part 1 How to make friends, part 3 How to maintain a friendship How to end a friendship You've wrestled with your fear of rejection, decided to be braver and less lonely, and are ready to make some new friends. Now do this. 1. Carry...
How to Make Friends, Part 1
Americans are bad at making friends. As children we make friends with the kids in our class or whoever lives near us. In college we're friends with any of the thousands of people on our campus. But as grown-ups outside of those friendship-petri-dishes, too many of us...