On my divorce day, several songs helped me through. Just in time, a friend introduced me to Rilo Kiley's song that repeats the words "It's so good to be free." I also played some of Paul Simon's songs about divorce and I got stuck on Josh Groban's "You're Still You"...
This is my divorce cake. I've always wanted a black cake and this one also features my favorite color (pink). It's from Bennison's Bakery in Evanston, Illinois USA because I didn't want to drive an hour each way to my favorite bakery in the snow. Divorce party tonight!
The judge was much nicer than I expected. I watched a few court proceedings before they called my name, and when one woman began to cry, the Honorable Nancy Katz whipped out a box of kleenex. She earnestly wished each petitioner and respondent good luck and looked me...
Because of my impending divorce, my blog will now descend into personal reflection, whining and boring details. I hope this will not last more than a few days. Please stand by for better content. I'm continuing to let the emotions roll through me as they come up. I'm...
I've got about 45 hours left to be a married woman. Then I'll be divorced and single. It'll be a new adventure that I'm looking forward to, although the end of the marriage is also sad. Right on cue I'm also feeling anger at my post-husband today, but that's probably...
I found out last Thursday when my court date will be for my divorce. It's shudderingly soon: Friday, February 7th. On that day I will answer a few questions before a judge, and about five minutes later, a guy named Bob and I will no longer be married. I've cried a lot...
I did this right: during my marriage we had no children, incurred no debt, bought no property, inherited no big windfalls and started no businesses. With nothing to argue about or contest, my husband and I should be cleanly divorced in about four weeks and $1,300. I...
I've been scraping around for about a week now, missing my post-husband (I call him that because we'll be legally divorced in a few months), feeling the emptiness of my beautiful one-bedroom apartment, crying, EFT tapping, resting and then crying more. I understand...
Catherine Shanahan's Deep Nutrition asserts that what our mothers ate even before they were pregnant with us affects how our bodies grow and our capacity for health. Likewise, the model for relationships that our caretakers provided when we were children affects how...
And on days when I’m not feeling as content as my last post indicates, I mourn the end of my marriage. My marriage only lasted five years, but it was good and now it’s over. I cry and tap and cry and let the grief pass through.
Addendum to my previous post (Not the marrying kind): this comes from a woman who did not initiate her divorce and who would have stayed married for years yet. I liked being married, but I think I simply prefer being single. From the many years I spent as a spinster...
In the early days of realizing my marriage was over, I'd say to friends, "This is it. I'm not getting married again." I'd get responses like, "Don't say that," and "Don't give up on marriage." People would genuinely try to convince me that I should keep an open mind...
2 p.m. on Saturday From Central Continental Bakery in Mt. Prospect, Illinois USA: white cake with lemon filling. This half sheet cake was worth every penny of $70 because it's my favorite cake from my favorite bakery of all time. With this cake, I [and many others]...
Back when Bob and I were first married, I told him (and he remembers this), "No matter what happens -- if we end up divorced or you die -- I'm keeping the Martin. Okay? Just so you know. I'm not going back to Regina Rodríguez." He said that was fine. Reason: the...
I. The dirty stove (her job) competes with the uncleaned floors (his job) for most neglected surface, but the winner is her skin. Emotions balance and unbalance, shifting positions and changing sides Who's heavier? II. It turns out the buoyant boy can sink, while the...