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Divorce Is Not Failure
We’re in denial that marriage has become another rite of passage
Medium.com Writing Contest
The competition is fierce for thousands of dollars in prizes. This is what I submitted.
My Middle Age Morale Problem
My life isn’t worse than it used to be; the problem is that I don’t have as much hope.
Middle-Aged, Divorced, Trying to Date
There’s a version of my life that died back in 2013 and I haven’t grieved it. It’s time to grieve it.
10-Year Anniversary of a 5-Year Marriage
Yesterday was the 10-year anniversary of the day we celebrated our wedding. My husband and I got married on one day and had the reception six months later. For some reason the 10-year anniversary of the wedding ceremony didn't hit me as hard last March, but today I...
Valentine’s Day Irony
When I filed for divorce, my then-husband signed papers that released him from having to appear in court. I appeared before the judge by myself and she finalized the divorce. It turns out that I can divorce my husband that way, but to separate our AT&T cell phone...
Being Divorced Is Great
During my protracted spinsterhood (didn't marry til I was 41), I did a lot of online dating. Being single-never-married felt like a benefit, or at least a neutral quality, when I was in my late 20s and early 30s, but that changed. By the end of my 30s, being...
Single and Dating Again? Never Mind.
Without that old desperation to find a man - Without that old certainty that I'm a total loser without romance in my life I just can't work up much interest in dating. So, never mind the online dating websites and keeping a constant eye out for available men. It's not...
Grief
For whatever reasons, I'd never experienced grief in my entire life until after my divorce. Sometimes a wave will hit me and I'll feel that utter helpless sense of loss and ache. After the emotions of the past 14 months, I've come to believe that grief is the worst...
Judgment After Divorce
Even though I'm divorced, I'm Catholic (actually I'm an atheist, but just follow me here), so I know that on the Day of Judgment when we all rise from the dead, there I'll be, standing next to my only groom. In the eyes of God our marital bond will be unbroken, and at...
How’s Unmarried Life Treating Me?
I'm continuing to go through the process of unplugging emotionally from my ex-husband and his dog and focusing on me. Like many women, I really centered myself on my marriage and how I could improve myself and our relationship. Unsurprisingly, I wanted to talk about...
Non-Anniversary
Tuesday, March 25th would have been my sixth wedding anniversary, but the divorce was final on 7 February, so this is my first non-anniversary. I wasn't expecting this week to be so hard, but I keep remembering what I was doing six years ago. Thinking about Bob makes...
Post-Divorce Valentine’s Day
It's Valentine's Day. I finalized my divorce last Friday. I had oral surgery on Tuesday and sometimes my mouth hurts. But I'm still in a good mood. Happy Day!
I Go Up and Down. Here’s Up.
Being divorced as of last Friday kind of feels like a dream come true right now. When I was married there were many things I missed about being single and now I get them all back: spending my money however I want; being in complete control of my sleep schedule and...