Intersection: 1. A month ago I got married, anticipating my new identity as "Regina Rodriguez-Martin." 2. This week I began a new temporary FULL-TIME job (yay!!) and am reminded that until I have a new social security card and driver's license, I am legally still...
I guess it's just really tough times for people right now because the morning of March 25th we sent out 75 mailed announcements to let friends and family know that we just got married and we've heard from a surprisingly low number of people. We did get a couple of...
The 41-and-a-half year-old spinster and the 45-and-a-half year-old bachelor are finally legal. On Tuesday, March 25th, Bob and I went down to city hall in Chicago with a few friends where a very nice judge did the ceremony, which was surprisingly quick. We were aiming...
I'm amazed when a friend tells me she thinks she's found the guy she's going to marry. Even if they've been dating for six months or a year, I'm amazed that anyone is able to predict whom they will marry. I had no idea I was going to marry Bob when we'd been dating...
It's a good thing I didn't establish this blog with a "being single" theme or call it "Spinster on the Edge" or anything like that. As little as I was able to imagine ever getting married, when I created this blog I decided to highlight a quality I knew would never...
Spinster: an unmarried woman past the common age of marriage. The estimated median age, at first marriage, in the United States for 2000-2003 was 27 and 25 years old, for men and women respectively. Friends have asked if I'll be having a bachelorette party before I...
I just came from the blog of Obesio the Loser (who is ending his blog, but I hope will not be deleting his blog) and there are so many comments about retiring bloggers that I thought I'd better post so it doesn't look like I'm stopping, too. By the way, "Obesio the...
I was born single. I grew up single. I spent my 20's and 30's being single. I never had any other view of myself. As a young child I never wrapped a towel or scarf around my head and pretended it was a bridal veil. I never asked someone to play the husband so I could...
Sometimes marriage is good. Sometimes marriage is bad. At least half of all American marriages end in divorce. Plenty of couples had no business getting together in the first place, especially to have children (poor children). I think many of us know how badly...
(Part One)Earlier today I was writing to a friend with whom I haven't spoken in months. I wrote him that I'm discouraged about my music. Again. I've had no luck with TAXI.com (the service that hooks up musicians with people who want to buy songs for film/tv placement...
I'm so excited: my Christmas shopping is all done. I ordered some great things from Sharper Image for my boyfriend. I've been looking forward to giving them to him because they're things he wouldn't think of himself, but he totally needs them. When we order things...
Trying to figure out if I should marry my boyfriend, I'm reading a book on compatibility in relationships and it's making me think that my boyfriend and I are compatible in most important ways, except one: how much we engage in serious conversations about politics,...
(Although I'll still technically be a spinster, which is to say, unmarried.)Okay, here's the news: after years of independent spinsterhood, desperate man-hunting and depression, I am -- for the first time in my life -- going to live with a man. I'm moving in with my...
On December 27th I posted about my continuing un-engaged state even though I'm 40 and have been involved for a year with a guy who is 44. While I don't feel ready for marriage or even engagement right now, I'm aware of society's heavy expectation that this guy and I...
(I continue to struggle with the stupid new blogger beta version which makes posting (and commenting on others' blogs) difficult. I used to love blogging. Now it's time-consuming and constipated.) I had a very nice Christmas with my new boyfriend. He still feels like...