Oregon is turning out to be the perfect place for us. I love mountains covered with pine trees and redwoods, Bob loves ocean and we can see both from the same vantage point, all up and down the coast. We're staying at the Overleaf Lodge in Yachats, Oregon which I...
This weekend, Bob and I celebrate our recent marriage with some friends downtown (dinner, toasting, CAKE, etc.) and then leave for a weeklong honeymoon. The real honeymoon. Finally. I doubt I'll blog again until, well, probably October.But I feel very distracted by...
Here's Newsweek's article, "More women are having fewer children, if at all," with my comments in brackets: More women in their early 40s are childless, and those who are having children are having fewer than ever before, the Census Bureau said Monday. [Yay, us!] In...
Bob and I are sort of doing this whole getting married thing backwards. We got married in a civil ceremony last March, then we flew to Houston so he could meet my parents and family at a celebration in August and now I'm getting ready to have a similar party with...
My favorite part of Lorraine Ali's Newsweek article (July 14, 2008) about the effects of children on happiness is this: In Daniel Gilbert's 2006 book "Stumbling on Happiness," the Harvard professor of psychology looks at several studies and concludes that marital...
Getting married two months ago was great, but I've noticed that this winter and spring it has been very hard to get my friends to spend time with me. I understand that they are busy. Everyone's busy. And many of them have boyfriends or husbands or even children. But I...
In case anyone has ever wondered, "What did Regina's mother look like at age 41?" here's a photo to help you out. I took this picture of myself yesterday because I realized that I have now become my mother: it's the hair, the mouth, the expression, the shade of...
My friend Donna was one of the many people to whom Bob and I sent a marriage announcement in March. She recently moved and it took a very long time for her to get it. But when she did, she dashed off this email message: Guess what else I finally got? Your wedding...
Intersection: 1. A month ago I got married, anticipating my new identity as "Regina Rodriguez-Martin." 2. This week I began a new temporary FULL-TIME job (yay!!) and am reminded that until I have a new social security card and driver's license, I am legally still...
The text of an email I sent to most of the people for whom I have email addresses: Hey, everyone - After launching a job search in October, leaving the waitressing job in January, taking a long-term temporary assignment in February and becoming very discouraged and...
I guess it's just really tough times for people right now because the morning of March 25th we sent out 75 mailed announcements to let friends and family know that we just got married and we've heard from a surprisingly low number of people. We did get a couple of...
The 41-and-a-half year-old spinster and the 45-and-a-half year-old bachelor are finally legal. On Tuesday, March 25th, Bob and I went down to city hall in Chicago with a few friends where a very nice judge did the ceremony, which was surprisingly quick. We were aiming...
I'm amazed when a friend tells me she thinks she's found the guy she's going to marry. Even if they've been dating for six months or a year, I'm amazed that anyone is able to predict whom they will marry. I had no idea I was going to marry Bob when we'd been dating...
It's a good thing I didn't establish this blog with a "being single" theme or call it "Spinster on the Edge" or anything like that. As little as I was able to imagine ever getting married, when I created this blog I decided to highlight a quality I knew would never...
I'm 41 years old and getting married (for the first time) in two weeks and I'm way too old to have my mother still buying me clothes. She said she sent me a sweater and I was prepared to open it, not like it and then graciously ask her to stop buying me clothes.But...